What keeps INFJs from their vision?
Do you have a clear vision for your future? Or are you actively working to discover and develop this vision?
Without a vision, INFJs may feel frustrated, useless, and purposeless.
When you have a vision, you have direction in your life. A clear vision is energizing and motivating. You may feel driven and connected to something greater than yourself.
Here are a few descriptions of the INFJ personality type from official MBTI® Manual andIntroduction to Myers-Briggs Type:
INFJs develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. They're organized and decisive in implementing their vision.
At their best, INFJs combine an empathetic understanding of the feelings and motivations of people with the drive and organization to implement global plans for enhancing people's lives.
INFJs prefer to lead persuasively by sharing their vision.
The dominant function of the INFJ is to rely on clear insights about people and complex pictures of the future.
INFJs have a visionary grasp of human relationships and possibilities, which, when shared, can elevate and inspire others.
As you can see, having a vision for the future is part of the DNA of the INFJ personality type.
A vision has the power to compel us onward. Just reading those lines above inspires me to keep moving forward with my own vision of helping other INFJ women take action on their visions. I'm excited and inspired by the power and possibilities I see within you. Your vision can have a lasting impact on the world!
How can you create an inspiring vision for your future?
I created the free Vision Clarity Course after speaking with several INFJs who deeply desired a vision for their life but didn't have a clear picture of their vision. Many times our visions can come to us through our own insights and intuition. Because our intuition works in the background from information collected over time, I created this course to help you gather pieces of information about yourself that inform your vision. If you've already worked through the course and created your vision, but haven't taken action, go through the course once again to see if any new insights related to your vision arise.
Notice something else about those descriptions above? The underlined parts illustrate the second part of the equation. Your vision needs to be paired with action. Just having a vision, insight, or idea about how the world could be won't give you a sense of fulfillment. INFJs want their gifts to be useful to others. We must bravely take steps forward by using our gifts in service of our vision.
What's stopping you?
In my coaching work with INFJ women, there's one common theme that blocks most of us from making our vision a reality, or stalls us after we've started taking action. It's listening to the voice of our inner critic. That voice may sound like,
"Your work is not good enough to submit."
"Who do you think you are? There are so many more-qualified people to do this than you."
"No one will listen to you."
"You can't handle the criticism that you might get when you share your creative ideas."
"You're not a good public speaker."
"You're not good at 'selling' anything, even if it's your ideas."
Did any of those hit close to home? Each one of these relates to an underlying fear that you're not good enough. That's exactly what your inner critic (or gremlin, as we say in coaching) wants you to believe. Why does it so desperately want you to listen? Because if you believe what it tells you then you won't take action. If you don't take action, you can't get hurt, criticized, rejected, ignored, or dismissed. If those things don't happen, you get to stay safely where you are.
So you see, the voice of your inner critic is all about protection.
Its methods of protecting you are unsophisticated and childish. It believes that if it can keep you right where you are, then nothing bad can happen. Or can it?
What happens when you feel frustrated, useless, and without purpose? For me, just typing those words brings feelings of anxiety and sadness. I don't think I'd describe the moments in my life when I felt directionless as "safe." Scary? Yes. Confusing? Yes. But not safe.
What about you? What's your inner critic telling you? Are its comments really protecting you—or is it keeping you from taking action on your powerful vision?
Think of it this way: While taking action on your vision takes energy, listening to and "obeying" your inner critic also takes energy. To listen to the voice of your inner critic is also taking action—it's just not a forward-moving action.
Over the next week, I encourage you to find a creative outlet to express what you'd like to say to your inner critic. You can write, draw, paint, dance, talk out loud, etc. First, identify the inner critic message you hear most frequently (or the message you've heard most recently). Then consider what you'd like to say in response.
As you speak to your inner critic, remember that it's like a child. It needs to feel comforted and reminded that you can handle what it doesn't want you to do. You are strong, brave, and courageous! Even when you don't think you are those things, you have a well of strength, bravery, and courage within you.
You can do this!