A few months back I was lured into a gourmet chocolate shop by the smells emanating from within. It was a relatively new store with the owner and his partner running the shop by themselves. As my husband and I approached the counter, he warmly greeted us. I began to inspect the chocolate bars on display, looking for the quality of the ingredients. After watching a documentary on the chocolate industry, I'm really particular about chocolate. I can't remember exactly what I asked, but he began sharing a little about how his chocolate journey began. He was clearly entrepreneurial in spirit, but one thing he said stuck with me. When he initially considered becoming a chocolatier, he thought to himself, "It's cocoa. It's sugar. How hard can it be?" He laughed at his recollection and said that he initially made some really bad chocolate. He'd make a batch, taste it, cock his head to the side...and really want it to taste good. He knew deep down that it was horrible and his partner kept him in check. She simply said, "Ohhh...no" after each of those initial batches. 😂 Read More
What struck me about his story was…
When I committed to creating weekly resources for INFJ women in the form of an email called The INFJ Life, I faced my perfectionism and fear of criticism. I had a vision, though, and committed to seeing it through. With this work, I've made 10 observations about being an INFJ woman... Read More
Conflict! Ignoring it, avoiding it, or otherwise pretending it doesn't exist is not a healthy expression of our personality type. So how can we, as INFJs, deal with conflict? In this Facebook Live, I answered questions that were submitted about dealing with conflict as an INFJ... Read More
As promised, here's part 2 of 5 healthy habits INFJs can incorporate into their lives to make their self-development a priority. Be sure to watch all the way to the end where I share... Read More
I've met other INFJs in real life due to my work, but I've also met INFJs through my involvement in various "causes." What's an INFJ without a cause? A dissatisfied, unfulfilled, and typically sad INFJ. We need to feel like we're... Read More
What healthy habits can INFJs incorporate into their lives? Today I'm sharing five important habits in this first part of a two-part video series. How many of these do you do on a daily basis? Read More
Watch this video for help normalizing your lack of confidence and to learn six ways to start increasing your confidence right now. I'll also share two principles that will lay the foundation for developing your confidence. Read More
Did you keep up with the 2018 winter Olympics? I'll admit I didn't. I did see the news stories about who won gold, though, and who was supposed to win but didn't. In a session with my coach the other day I had an epiphany about... Read More
You know this thing that brought you and I together? This knowledge that has made such a difference in our lives? I'm talking about our INFJ personality type. Our type is part of a personality system developed by two women with idealistic visions of changing the world—one of which was an INFJ! They had no previous psychological training and faced a lot of opposition. That didn't stop them from creating something that changed your life... Read More
What's your take on the holiday season? Love it? Hate it? Depends on the year? The holidays have this way of magnifying all the issues we see and experience in our lives, especially as INFJs. Today I want to share an underutilized recipe for enjoying this time of year. But first, let's call on your idealism to... Read More
This is a continued discussion from my previous post. In this Facebook Live I shared three questions to ask yourself if you think you might be in the wrong career. I followed that up with three actions you can take right now, even if you can't... Read More
When I was a 7th grader, I joined the yearbook staff at my school. A big part of this job was being a photographer for the school's clubs and various groups. Since I'm of a...ahem...certain age...the camera I had available to me was a manual film camera. You know, like the kind where you load actual film into the camera, properly set the exposure, then develop the film? This is where I fell in love with photography. I began subscribing to photography magazines. I saved my babysitting money and bought a Pentax K-1000 camera through a layaway program. Ha. I then decided I must become a photographer. I was obsessed. That's the way we INFJs tend to do things. We're either... Read More
One of the things I loved as a kid was rearranging my bedroom. I can't recall how frequently I rearranged, but every few months I'd get this sudden urge. Read More
I loved the feeling of a fresh start with each new arrangement. As I rearranged, I would also clean and organize things as I put them in their new spot. Afterwards, I'd stand at the door of my room and gaze at my new area. I'd smile and let out a long sigh. Ahhhhh. Now I can focus. Did you ever do this? To this day, I still...
I'm thinking about writing this post about decisiveness, but I'm not sure. I could choose that topic, but there are lots of other things I think you'd like to read, too. What if how to be more decisive is not what you really need to hear right now? Maybe I'll write about being more decisive, but also talk about... Read More
Do you want to have a great day today? How about tomorrow? Yeah? Me, too. Ok, so here's how to have a great day in four steps... Read More
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Have you ever said any of these things? Or thought them?
No one understands me.
Why doesn't anyone understand what I'm saying?
Why does everyone else seem to have friends except for me?
I'm so alone.
I know I've thought these at various times. As I'm sure you've heard, there's an oft-touted statistic that INFJs... Read More
I have a confession to make. Over the past 10 years, I've lived in very outdoor-activity friendly places with mountains. And yet, I'm not a hiker. Despite pretending to be one for a few years when I lived in Montana, I finally realized one day that I don't really like it all that much. I wanted to be a person... Read More