When was the last time you celebrated a big accomplishment? When was the last time you celebrated a small accomplishment? Do you rate your accomplishments on a scale from "not worthy to celebrate" to "well, maybe that's something to celebrate?" Imagine my voice getting higher on that last one and ending in a questioning face.
Today I want to share with you the value of celebrating for an INFJ. I also want to encourage you to give yourself permission to celebrate and help you plan your next celebration. If you're already feeling something uncomfortable rise up at the thought of celebrating...stick with me (please).
Why celebration matters for INFJs
As future-focused INFJs, it's not uncommon for us to complete a goal or task and quickly move on to the next thing. We see the gap between where we are and what's left to be done...or what could be done. You can call that idealism or perfectionism. Both perspectives serve up a healthy plate of frustration if they're left unchecked.
Celebration can temporarily interrupt your tendency to ignore what's already done in favor for what you still want to do. And this temporary reprieve can be enough to provide motivation to continue on.
Imagine for a minute that you're traveling to a new destination. It's a place you've never been before but you've imagined it in your head a thousand times. The only catch is that to get there you have to travel in a windowless train...that has no interior lights. That's right. You're riding completely in the dark to an unknown location. The only thing that sustains you is the place you've imagined in your head. Nothing outside the train matters. Now consider that you've been on this journey for years and you're not even sure when the train is due to arrive. Do you start to feel frustrated?
Now imagine that you're still headed to this new destination that you've imagined a thousand times. But this time you get to ride in a beautiful train with floor to ceiling windows. You can look out and see the beauty of the landscape, and the train even makes stops so you can get out and enjoy some of the scenery. You're still headed to this unknown place, but the enjoyment of getting off the train and pausing to reflect at various points of the journey sustains you so that you can get back on that train and keep heading toward to this imagined place.
Which train would you rather ride?
While this is not a perfect analogy, the second train describes the nature of our lives. While we hold on to our ideals as the ultimate destination as an INFJ, we also make many stops along the way. If we allow ourselves to enjoy...or CELEBRATE...those stops, we gain a greater sense of where we've come from. Each stop represents a distance we've already traveled. We remind ourselves that there's more to experience than our ideal. The rest of the journey does have value.
Plan to celebrate right from the start.
When you're planning your goals, create a plan for celebration for when you reach that goal. Build it into your process right from the start. Choose a celebration that will be motivating to you and recognizes your efforts. The act of recognizing your efforts can bring a sense of fulfillment on your journey.
"Celebrating" doesn't have to be a big party or an expensive trip. It can literally be anything—as long as it brings you joy and gives you time to reflect and recognize your accomplishments so far.
I'll admit that this is a difficult one for me, too. In fact, part of my planning for this year includes deciding on a mode of celebration each time I create a goal. I'm brainstorming ideas as I write this. Will you join me?
Think of one goal you currently have. After you've fleshed out the specific steps you want to take to accomplish this goal, add one more. Celebrate! Brainstorm a few ideas of how you can celebrate the accomplishment of that goal and include them in your plan.
Once you decide on how you might like to celebrate, would you be willing to share by commenting below? I'd love to know what you plan to do to honor and recognize your accomplishment!