4 questions for INFJs to start a new day, week, or year

4 Questions for INFJs

I love a fresh, new notebook. A clean page. I love a just-cleaned apartment with everything in its place. An empty downloads folder and a clean desktop background make me feel like all is right with the world. Well, maybe for a couple seconds anyway.

I love a fresh start. A new day, week, month, or year on the calendar always signifies that I can start over. Do you feel the same way? Now we have January in front of us again—a whole new year. Maybe the struggles of last year are still lingering in your mind, or maybe this new year is already off to a rocky start. Or, just maybe you’ve had the best few days in recent memory. No matter what you're experiencing right now, I want to share a message with you as you begin a new year. My hope is that you’ll take these words to heart and decide what you really want this year. Don't wait to let this new year happen to you.

So, dear INFJ, when it comes to you and your INFJ personality preferences...

You’re beautiful. You’re beautiful in the way you love others. You’re beautiful in the way you want to help others. You’re beautiful in the way you see the world. You’re beautiful. Do you believe me?

I’ve written about accepting compliments before. When someone gives you a compliment, do you thank them on the outside but say "nope" on the inside? Do any of these sound familiar? 

Nobody really knows me, so how can what they’re saying be true? 
They’re just being nice. They don’t really mean it.
They might believe that, but I know the truth. 


Of course nobody knows what you’re really thinking inside. I’m not outing your secret here, am I? I mean it’s just you and me so we can be straight with each other, right? Yeah? Ok...then please believe me. You. Are. Beautiful. Please stop thinking of all the reasons you’re not. Stop for one second and realize that you have SO MUCH to offer this world. 

I know this because I know your potential as someone with the INFJ personality type. Even if you’re not currently “living your dream,” or you have no idea what your purpose is, that potential is still inside of you. And it’s beautiful. 

You  must first believe that you are full of potential. Know that you’re not wasting it as you try different things to find out what you really want in life. The “trying out” phase is crucial to help eliminate things that don’t work for you. You have the opportunity every day to make a difference, not only in the lives of others, but in your own life too.

I hope you're starting to believe you're beautiful. Are you also willing to claim your potential? I want to leave you with a challenge to consider what you really want this year and then decide to do what it takes to make it happen.

Here are four questions to help you get started:

  • What do you really want? In other words, what outcomes do you want to see?

  • What are you doing to get what you really want?

  • How well is that approach working to help you get what you really want?

  • If it's not working well, what new approach will you use?