Do you plan goals, intentions, or resolutions in January each year? Do you have a sense of renewal and a fresh, new page on January 1? If so, how long does that feeling last? Read More
Many people start to lose steam on their exciting and inspiring plans for the new year as early as February. INFJs aren’t immune to this downturn. There are, though, a few specific reasons why you, with the INFJ personality type, might lose focus…
For the past decade or so, I’ve started my morning with a hot cup of tea. I wasn’t always this way. I never picked up the coffee habit so having a hot beverage in the morning was a new concept for me. What about you? Do you drink coffee or tea every morning?
Whether we’re talking about making coffee or tea, there are a couple essential tools. It doesn’t matter where in the world you might prepare your hot beverage of choice. You will always need… Read More
How often are you left feeling dissatisfied with where you are and where you want to be? Has this been a common trend in your life? You’re always looking toward the ideal and disheartened by how far you still have to go. Even when you finish things, you immediately Read More
How often do you find yourself wanting to help others? As an INFJ woman, your answer is probably often! So you may be wondering about the title of this article. We really do struggle with helping. Let me explain...
What’s Fe got to do with it?
If we look at your INFJ cognitive functions, or the way your mind takes in information and makes decisions, we see that you use a function called Extraverted Feeling (Fe) in the auxiliary position. Unlike your… Read More
What guidelines do you have for what you say “yes” to? When you say yes to something, it takes up valuable real estate on the timeline of your life. Every day, hour, minute, and second of your life is valuable. In an ideal world, saying yes to something would mean that “something” would align with who you are, who you want to be, and what’s most important to you. But that’s not always what our yeses… Read More
A few months back I was lured into a gourmet chocolate shop by the smells emanating from within. It was a relatively new store with the owner and his partner running the shop by themselves. As my husband and I approached the counter, he warmly greeted us. I began to inspect the chocolate bars on display, looking for the quality of the ingredients. After watching a documentary on the chocolate industry, I'm really particular about chocolate. I can't remember exactly what I asked, but he began sharing a little about how his chocolate journey began. He was clearly entrepreneurial in spirit, but one thing he said stuck with me. When he initially considered becoming a chocolatier, he thought to himself, "It's cocoa. It's sugar. How hard can it be?" He laughed at his recollection and said that he initially made some really bad chocolate. He'd make a batch, taste it, cock his head to the side...and really want it to taste good. He knew deep down that it was horrible and his partner kept him in check. She simply said, "Ohhh...no" after each of those initial batches. 😂 Read More
What struck me about his story was…
If you have a vision for something you want to do in your life, but you aren’t sure why you’re not moving forward or how to move forward, this is for you! In this Facebook Live I share six things that create a strong foundation for making your vision a reality as an INFJ. These are things I’ve discovered in my own life and the lives of my INFJ coaching clients. I’ve noticed patterns in the things with which… Read More
Susan Storm from PsychologyJunkie.com joined me for a live chat to talk about parenting as an INFJ and parenting kids by their personality type. In this hour-long chat, we covered:
Why it’s so important to identify your child’s personality type
The age at which you can start to identify their type
Which personality preferences you can identify first
The preference that can be the hardest…
Have you ever wondered if you'll ever be understood completely? You may have even wondered what's wrong with you. You may feel hopeless when your close friends and family don't even understand you. Read More
You're not alone in these thoughts, and there's nothing wrong with you. Feeling misunderstood is very common among INFJs. I believe wanting to be understood…
INFJs are interested in becoming the best version of themselves. This makes us interested in things like psychology, self-development books and courses, coaching, and therapy. We're also a personality type that has idealistic tendencies. That means we may idealize the best version of ourselves. We may forget that it's about becoming and not arriving. Acceptance of this journey, complete with pit stops, detours, traffic jams, and roadblocks, is a sign of a healthy INFJ. It's also a sign that she is continually… Read More
When you discovered your INFJ personality type, you saw that the J at the end stands for "judging." Judging, in this context, is not the same as judgmental. There is, however, one person to whom we tend to be the most judgmental. Read More
Who is that person? …
Have you ever wondered about the best way to develop as an INFJ? Have you considered the cognitive functions as a path to self-development? When we learn about our cognitive functions, it's not uncommon to want to develop them all. Being the best version of ourselves must mean perfecting our use of all four of our cognitive functions, right? The short answer is no. :-) Read More
Katharine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers, creators of the MBTI® tool, based their work on the theories of Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. Jung believed that a person's development was a…
I once posted a quote about helping from Mr. Rogers on Facebook and Instagram. The gist is that he says the capacity to accept help is connected to the capacity to give help. The posts generated some interesting conversations. There were also differing opinions about the statement. What I want to share today is something INFJs often struggle with when it comes to helping. That's… Read More
In this series, I not only wanted to share the power of this catabolic/anabolic thought framework with you, but I also wanted to remind myself of its power. It provides a way for us to take conscious control of our thoughts and reminds us that we're not… Read More
Did you catch the Facebook Live I did on How to Manage Your Energy as an INFJ? I shared how your cognitive functions impact your energy as well as some practical tips on managing your energy. The energy I referenced in that video is mostly emotional and physical. But there are other types of energy that impact the way you respond to things in your life. Recognizing and understanding these other types of energy has the power to… Read More
An INFJ's dominant cognitive function, Introverted Intuition, is a convergent process. This means your brain juggles the various patterns it observes until it fits them all together into a single insight. When INFJs have an insight about how something is to be done, it may be difficult to… Read More
One of the most requested topics from INFJs is relationships. It makes sense. Research shows that there are fewer INFJs than any other personality type. This might set us up to feel alone and misunderstood. We're not the only MBTI® type to experience these things, but there are great numbers of INFJs who feel these things on a regular basis. The truth is… Read More
This was a Facebook Live in which I covered the impact your cognitive functions might have on your energy and also some practical tips on how to better manage your energy today. Read More
I'll be honest: I've had some resistance to writing this article on the final piece of our INFJ cognitive function stack. As INFJs, we don't relate to this function as much. It's completely normal to experience… Read More
This is Part 4 of a series exploring what "INFJ" says about you. If you haven't already, start with Part 1 - What Does INFJ Say About You?
We continue this week with your tertiary cognitive function of Introverted Thinking (Ti).
What is Introverted Thinking (Ti)?
Just like Fe, Ti is a decision-making function. Introverts that lead with Ti are ISTPs and INTPs. As INFJs, we prefer to make our decisions using… Read More