I'll be honest: I've had some resistance to writing this article on the final piece of our INFJ cognitive function stack. As INFJs, we don't relate to this function as much. It's completely normal to experience…Read More
This is Part 4 of a series exploring what "INFJ" says about you. If you haven't already, start with Part 1 - What Does INFJ Say About You?
We continue this week with your tertiary cognitive function of Introverted Thinking (Ti).
What is Introverted Thinking (Ti)?
Just like Fe, Ti is a decision-making function. Introverts that lead with Ti are ISTPs and INTPs. As INFJs, we prefer to make our decisions using…Read More
The University of INFJ continues...
(Start with Part 1 of this series)
We're exploring each cognitive function in the INFJ’s function stack. Take a look at the previous article in this series to review what we mean by “cognitive functions.” You'll also see how to stay connected to your dominant function, Introverted Intuition (Ni). This week we'll explore your auxiliary function of Extraverted Feeling.
What is Extraverted Feeling (Fe)?
Extraverted Feeling provides the perfect balance to your Introverted Intuition. Your Ni takes in information and your Fe allows…Read More
As an INFJ, you lead with the information-gathering (perceiving) function of Introverted Intuition (Ni). For INFJs and INTJs, the two types who lead with Ni, it's always on. So, what is it? Keep reading…Read More
What would your life be like if conflict didn’t exist? You wouldn’t feel that all-too-familiar tension due to misunderstandings. You’d probably feel like a huge weight was lifted off your shoulders. If you’re an INFJ like me, I know that even the word conflict evokes stress for you. You might be in the habit of regularly avoiding conflict to avoid that horrible feeling before, during, and after. In the idealistic world we dream about in our heads, conflict doesn’t exist. As much as we strive for the ideal, we must admit that conflict will always exist. So what does an INFJ who wants to be the best version of themselves, but avoids conflict at all costs, supposed to do? I’m going to lay out exactly how to deal with conflict…Read More
You've already discovered your INFJ personality type. Raise your hand if you've also Googled all things INFJ. There's a lot of noise out there, isn't there? I want to help you make the most out of the knowledge of your INFJ personality type. That's why we're going back…Read More
There are times in life when we come face-to-face with what we really believe. It's in these moments that our true beliefs about ourselves bubble to the surface. Sometimes they might explode in our face. This is a story about…Read More
Conflict! Ignoring it, avoiding it, or otherwise pretending it doesn't exist is not a healthy expression of our personality type. So how can we, as INFJs, deal with conflict? In this Facebook Live, I answered questions that were submitted about dealing with conflict as an INFJ...Read More
As promised, here's part 2 of 5 healthy habits INFJs can incorporate into their lives to make their self-development a priority. Be sure to watch all the way to the end where I share...Read More
I've met other INFJs in real life due to my work, but I've also met INFJs through my involvement in various "causes." What's an INFJ without a cause? A dissatisfied, unfulfilled, and typically sad INFJ. We need to feel like we're...Read More
What healthy habits can INFJs incorporate into their lives? Today I'm sharing five important habits in this first part of a two-part video series. How many of these do you do on a daily basis?Read More
So many INFJ women tell me they feel misunderstood. They want, just once, for someone to get them.
As humans, I believe we're all wired for connection with other humans. There are a whole lot of people walking around feeling misunderstood, not just us INFJs. Being misunderstood is not a unique INFJ quality, but it's often the number one frustration for INFJs. Why does it cut so deeply when we feel misunderstood? Let's take a look...
Watch this video for help normalizing your lack of confidence and to learn six ways to start increasing your confidence right now. I'll also share two principles that will lay the foundation for developing your confidence.Read More
Did you keep up with the 2018 winter Olympics? I'll admit I didn't. I did see the news stories about who won gold, though, and who was supposed to win but didn't. In a session with my coach the other day I had an epiphany about...Read More
The INFJ women I work with in my coaching practice often struggle with how to deal with conflict. In this video, I get real and share three situations, related to my INFJ personality, in which I created conflict for myself due to...Read More
The majority of INFJ women I work with are really hard on themselves. I mean really hard on themselves. This results in a lot of self-blame, guilt, and frustration. What about you?
Why do we do this? I'll get to this in just a minute.
As an INFJ, your "NF" cognitive function pair makes you an idealist. You share this with other NF types like ENFJ, INFP, and ENFP. It's important to note here that idealism is not...
Have you ever done something completely out of character and later wondered, who was that? Last week I mentioned that everyday stress causes an exaggeration of your dominant cognitive function. When your introverted intuition (Ni) is exaggerated you withdraw even further inside. There's a tipping point when things swing to the other side of your cognitive function stack. This tipping point causes your inferior function to step up and say...Read More
Did you know that INFJs experience stress in more areas than all other types? Of nine categories measured, INFJs rank at the top in more areas than any other type. These include work, intimate relationships, and school. I don't want this information to stress you out! Don't worry—there's hope by the end of this blogpost...Read More
You know this thing that brought you and I together? This knowledge that has made such a difference in our lives? I'm talking about our INFJ personality type. Our type is part of a personality system developed by two women with idealistic visions of changing the world—one of which was an INFJ! They had no previous psychological training and faced a lot of opposition. That didn't stop them from creating something that changed your life...Read More