A few months back I was lured into a gourmet chocolate shop by the smells emanating from within. It was a relatively new store with the owner and his partner running the shop by themselves. As my husband and I approached the counter, he warmly greeted us. I began to inspect the chocolate bars on display, looking for the quality of the ingredients. After watching a documentary on the chocolate industry, I'm really particular about chocolate. I can't remember exactly what I asked, but he began sharing a little about how his chocolate journey began. He was clearly entrepreneurial in spirit, but one thing he said stuck with me. When he initially considered becoming a chocolatier, he thought to himself, "It's cocoa. It's sugar. How hard can it be?" He laughed at his recollection and said that he initially made some really bad chocolate. He'd make a batch, taste it, cock his head to the side...and really want it to taste good. He knew deep down that it was horrible and his partner kept him in check. She simply said, "Ohhh...no" after each of those initial batches. 😂 Read More
What struck me about his story was…
If you have a vision for something you want to do in your life, but you aren’t sure why you’re not moving forward or how to move forward, this is for you! In this Facebook Live I share six things that create a strong foundation for making your vision a reality as an INFJ. These are things I’ve discovered in my own life and the lives of my INFJ coaching clients. I’ve noticed patterns in the things with which… Read More
Susan Storm from PsychologyJunkie.com joined me for a live chat to talk about parenting as an INFJ and parenting kids by their personality type. In this hour-long chat, we covered:
Why it’s so important to identify your child’s personality type
The age at which you can start to identify their type
Which personality preferences you can identify first
The preference that can be the hardest…
Have you ever wondered if you'll ever be understood completely? You may have even wondered what's wrong with you. You may feel hopeless when your close friends and family don't even understand you. Read More
You're not alone in these thoughts, and there's nothing wrong with you. Feeling misunderstood is very common among INFJs. I believe wanting to be understood…
INFJs are interested in becoming the best version of themselves. This makes us interested in things like psychology, self-development books and courses, coaching, and therapy. We're also a personality type that has idealistic tendencies. That means we may idealize the best version of ourselves. We may forget that it's about becoming and not arriving. Acceptance of this journey, complete with pit stops, detours, traffic jams, and roadblocks, is a sign of a healthy INFJ. It's also a sign that she is continually… Read More
When you discovered your INFJ personality type, you saw that the J at the end stands for "judging." Judging, in this context, is not the same as judgmental. There is, however, one person to whom we tend to be the most judgmental. Read More
Who is that person? …
Have you ever wondered about the best way to develop as an INFJ? Have you considered the cognitive functions as a path to self-development? When we learn about our cognitive functions, it's not uncommon to want to develop them all. Being the best version of ourselves must mean perfecting our use of all four of our cognitive functions, right? The short answer is no. :-) Read More
Katharine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers, creators of the MBTI® tool, based their work on the theories of Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. Jung believed that a person's development was a…
I once posted a quote about helping from Mr. Rogers on Facebook and Instagram. The gist is that he says the capacity to accept help is connected to the capacity to give help. The posts generated some interesting conversations. There were also differing opinions about the statement. What I want to share today is something INFJs often struggle with when it comes to helping. That's… Read More
In this series, I not only wanted to share the power of this catabolic/anabolic thought framework with you, but I also wanted to remind myself of its power. It provides a way for us to take conscious control of our thoughts and reminds us that we're not… Read More
Did you catch the Facebook Live I did on How to Manage Your Energy as an INFJ? I shared how your cognitive functions impact your energy as well as some practical tips on managing your energy. The energy I referenced in that video is mostly emotional and physical. But there are other types of energy that impact the way you respond to things in your life. Recognizing and understanding these other types of energy has the power to… Read More
An INFJ's dominant cognitive function, Introverted Intuition, is a convergent process. This means your brain juggles the various patterns it observes until it fits them all together into a single insight. When INFJs have an insight about how something is to be done, it may be difficult to… Read More
One of the most requested topics from INFJs is relationships. It makes sense. Research shows that there are fewer INFJs than any other personality type. This might set us up to feel alone and misunderstood. We're not the only MBTI® type to experience these things, but there are great numbers of INFJs who feel these things on a regular basis. The truth is… Read More
This was a Facebook Live in which I covered the impact your cognitive functions might have on your energy and also some practical tips on how to better manage your energy today. Read More
I'll be honest: I've had some resistance to writing this article on the final piece of our INFJ cognitive function stack. As INFJs, we don't relate to this function as much. It's completely normal to experience… Read More
This is Part 4 of a series exploring what "INFJ" says about you. If you haven't already, start with Part 1 - What Does INFJ Say About You?
We continue this week with your tertiary cognitive function of Introverted Thinking (Ti).
What is Introverted Thinking (Ti)?
Just like Fe, Ti is a decision-making function. Introverts that lead with Ti are ISTPs and INTPs. As INFJs, we prefer to make our decisions using… Read More
The University of INFJ continues...
(Start with Part 1 of this series)
We're exploring each cognitive function in the INFJ’s function stack. Take a look at the previous article in this series to review what we mean by “cognitive functions.” You'll also see how to stay connected to your dominant function, Introverted Intuition (Ni). This week we'll explore your auxiliary function of Extraverted Feeling.
What is Extraverted Feeling (Fe)?
Extraverted Feeling provides the perfect balance to your Introverted Intuition. Your Ni takes in information and your Fe allows… Read More
As an INFJ, you lead with the information-gathering (perceiving) function of Introverted Intuition (Ni). For INFJs and INTJs, the two types who lead with Ni, it's always on. So, what is it? Keep reading… Read More
What would your life be like if conflict didn’t exist? You wouldn’t feel that all-too-familiar tension due to misunderstandings. You’d probably feel like a huge weight was lifted off your shoulders. If you’re an INFJ like me, I know that even the word conflict evokes stress for you. You might be in the habit of regularly avoiding conflict to avoid that horrible feeling before, during, and after. In the idealistic world we dream about in our heads, conflict doesn’t exist. As much as we strive for the ideal, we must admit that conflict will always exist. So what does an INFJ who wants to be the best version of themselves, but avoids conflict at all costs, supposed to do? I’m going to lay out exactly how to deal with conflict… Read More
You've already discovered your INFJ personality type. Raise your hand if you've also Googled all things INFJ. There's a lot of noise out there, isn't there? I want to help you make the most out of the knowledge of your INFJ personality type. That's why we're going back… Read More
There are times in life when we come face-to-face with what we really believe. It's in these moments that our true beliefs about ourselves bubble to the surface. Sometimes they might explode in our face. This is a story about… Read More