A common theme among INFJ women is the desire to connect with others but to also spend time alone. This theme is not surprising because it's a direct result of the way your brain is wired as an INFJ. It's also the source of a lot of conflict for INFJs. Want to take a look?Read More
Stuck. That's a word I hear from a lot of INFJ women. It's not a pleasant feeling, is it? It's completely understandable to feel stuck if you look around at your situation and think that you don't see any progress. It's not a wrong way to feel. Feelings are not right or wrong. They just...are. And they're a direct result of how you think about things.
So, are you interested in considering a new way to think about being stuck? If so, I have you covered. Let's start with…
When was the last time you celebrated a big accomplishment? When was the last time you celebrated a small accomplishment? Do you rate your accomplishments on a scale from "not worthy to celebrate" to "well, maybe that's something to celebrate?" Imagine my voice getting higher on that last one and ending in a questioning face.
Today I want to share with you the value of celebrating for an INFJ. I also want to encourage you to give yourself permission…
Do you plan goals, intentions, or resolutions in January each year? Do you have a sense of renewal and a fresh, new page on January 1? If so, how long does that feeling last?
Many people start to lose steam on their exciting and inspiring plans for the new year as early as February. INFJs aren’t immune to this downturn. There are, though, a few specific reasons why you, with the INFJ personality type, might lose focus…
For the past decade or so, I’ve started my morning with a hot cup of tea. I wasn’t always this way. I never picked up the coffee habit so having a hot beverage in the morning was a new concept for me. What about you? Do you drink coffee or tea every morning?
Whether we’re talking about making coffee or tea, there are a couple essential tools. It doesn’t matter where in the world you might prepare your hot beverage of choice. You will always need…Read More
How often are you left feeling dissatisfied with where you are and where you want to be? Has this been a common trend in your life? You’re always looking toward the ideal and disheartened by how far you still have to go. Even when you finish things, you immediatelyRead More
How often do you find yourself wanting to help others? As an INFJ woman, your answer is probably often! So you may be wondering about the title of this article. We really do struggle with helping. Let me explain...
What’s Fe got to do with it?
If we look at your INFJ cognitive functions, or the way your mind takes in information and makes decisions, we see that you use a function called Extraverted Feeling (Fe) in the auxiliary position. Unlike your…Read More
What guidelines do you have for what you say “yes” to? When you say yes to something, it takes up valuable real estate on the timeline of your life. Every day, hour, minute, and second of your life is valuable. In an ideal world, saying yes to something would mean that “something” would align with who you are, who you want to be, and what’s most important to you. But that’s not always what our yeses…Read More
A few months back I was lured into a gourmet chocolate shop by the smells emanating from within. It was a relatively new store with the owner and his partner running the shop by themselves. As my husband and I approached the counter, he warmly greeted us. I began to inspect the chocolate bars on display, looking for the quality of the ingredients. After watching a documentary on the chocolate industry, I'm really particular about chocolate. I can't remember exactly what I asked, but he began sharing a little about how his chocolate journey began. He was clearly entrepreneurial in spirit, but one thing he said stuck with me. When he initially considered becoming a chocolatier, he thought to himself, "It's cocoa. It's sugar. How hard can it be?" He laughed at his recollection and said that he initially made some really bad chocolate. He'd make a batch, taste it, cock his head to the side...and really want it to taste good. He knew deep down that it was horrible and his partner kept him in check. She simply said, "Ohhh...no" after each of those initial batches. 😂
What struck me about his story was…
If you have a vision for something you want to do in your life, but you aren’t sure why you’re not moving forward or how to move forward, this is for you! In this Facebook Live I share six things that create a strong foundation for making your vision a reality as an INFJ. These are things I’ve discovered in my own life and the lives of my INFJ coaching clients. I’ve noticed patterns in the things with which…Read More
Susan Storm from PsychologyJunkie.com joined me for a live chat to talk about parenting as an INFJ and parenting kids by their personality type. In this hour-long chat, we covered:
Why it’s so important to identify your child’s personality type
The age at which you can start to identify their type
Which personality preferences you can identify first
The preference that can be the hardest…
Have you ever wondered if you'll ever be understood completely? You may have even wondered what's wrong with you. You may feel hopeless when your close friends and family don't even understand you.
You're not alone in these thoughts, and there's nothing wrong with you. Feeling misunderstood is very common among INFJs. I believe wanting to be understood…
INFJs are interested in becoming the best version of themselves. This makes us interested in things like psychology, self-development books and courses, coaching, and therapy. We're also a personality type that has idealistic tendencies. That means we may idealize the best version of ourselves. We may forget that it's about becoming and not arriving. Acceptance of this journey, complete with pit stops, detours, traffic jams, and roadblocks, is a sign of a healthy INFJ. It's also a sign that she is continually…Read More
Have you ever wondered about the best way to develop as an INFJ? Have you considered the cognitive functions as a path to self-development? When we learn about our cognitive functions, it's not uncommon to want to develop them all. Being the best version of ourselves must mean perfecting our use of all four of our cognitive functions, right? The short answer is no. :-)
Katharine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers, creators of the MBTI® tool, based their work on the theories of Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. Jung believed that a person's development was a…
I once posted a quote about helping from Mr. Rogers on Facebook and Instagram. The gist is that he says the capacity to accept help is connected to the capacity to give help. The posts generated some interesting conversations. There were also differing opinions about the statement. What I want to share today is something INFJs often struggle with when it comes to helping. That's…Read More
In this series, I not only wanted to share the power of this catabolic/anabolic thought framework with you, but I also wanted to remind myself of its power. It provides a way for us to take conscious control of our thoughts and reminds us that we're not…Read More
Did you catch the Facebook Live I did on How to Manage Your Energy as an INFJ? I shared how your cognitive functions impact your energy as well as some practical tips on managing your energy. The energy I referenced in that video is mostly emotional and physical. But there are other types of energy that impact the way you respond to things in your life. Recognizing and understanding these other types of energy has the power to…Read More
An INFJ's dominant cognitive function, Introverted Intuition, is a convergent process. This means your brain juggles the various patterns it observes until it fits them all together into a single insight. When INFJs have an insight about how something is to be done, it may be difficult to…Read More
One of the most requested topics from INFJs is relationships. It makes sense. Research shows that there are fewer INFJs than any other personality type. This might set us up to feel alone and misunderstood. We're not the only MBTI® type to experience these things, but there are great numbers of INFJs who feel these things on a regular basis. The truth is…Read More