So many INFJ women tell me they feel misunderstood. They want, just once, for someone to get them. Read More
As humans, I believe we're all wired for connection with other humans. There are a whole lot of people walking around feeling misunderstood, not just us INFJs. Being misunderstood is not a unique INFJ quality, but it's often the number one frustration for INFJs. Why does it cut so deeply when we feel misunderstood? Let's take a look...
Watch this video for help normalizing your lack of confidence and to learn six ways to start increasing your confidence right now. I'll also share two principles that will lay the foundation for developing your confidence. Read More
Did you keep up with the 2018 winter Olympics? I'll admit I didn't. I did see the news stories about who won gold, though, and who was supposed to win but didn't. In a session with my coach the other day I had an epiphany about... Read More
The INFJ women I work with in my coaching practice often struggle with how to deal with conflict. In this video, I get real and share three situations, related to my INFJ personality, in which I created conflict for myself due to... Read More
The majority of INFJ women I work with are really hard on themselves. I mean really hard on themselves. This results in a lot of self-blame, guilt, and frustration. What about you? Read More
Why do we do this? I'll get to this in just a minute.
As an INFJ, your "NF" cognitive function pair makes you an idealist. You share this with other NF types like ENFJ, INFP, and ENFP. It's important to note here that idealism is not...
Have you ever done something completely out of character and later wondered, who was that? Last week I mentioned that everyday stress causes an exaggeration of your dominant cognitive function. When your introverted intuition (Ni) is exaggerated you withdraw even further inside. There's a tipping point when things swing to the other side of your cognitive function stack. This tipping point causes your inferior function to step up and say... Read More
Did you know that INFJs experience stress in more areas than all other types? Of nine categories measured, INFJs rank at the top in more areas than any other type. These include work, intimate relationships, and school. I don't want this information to stress you out! Don't worry—there's hope by the end of this blogpost... Read More
You know this thing that brought you and I together? This knowledge that has made such a difference in our lives? I'm talking about our INFJ personality type. Our type is part of a personality system developed by two women with idealistic visions of changing the world—one of which was an INFJ! They had no previous psychological training and faced a lot of opposition. That didn't stop them from creating something that changed your life... Read More
I love a fresh, new notebook. A clean page. I love a just-cleaned apartment with everything in its place. An empty downloads folder and a clean desktop background make me feel like all is right with the world. Well, maybe for a couple seconds anyway. I love a fresh start. A new day, week, month, or year on the calendar always... Read More
What's your take on the holiday season? Love it? Hate it? Depends on the year? The holidays have this way of magnifying all the issues we see and experience in our lives, especially as INFJs. Today I want to share an underutilized recipe for enjoying this time of year. But first, let's call on your idealism to... Read More
This was the 4th in a series of Facebook Lives at The INFJ Life Facebook page. Learn about the purpose your "inner critic" serves and how to respond and engage with it in a way that moves you forward. Read More
I recently did a Facebook Live to discuss the idea of feeling "stuck" as an INFJ. Take a look at let me know what you think in the comments! Read More
Do you want more in your life but feel stuck? The dictionary defines stuck as: 1. Trapped and unable to move, or 2. Unable to progress. So before we move on, I want to ask you: are you really unable to move? Unable to progress? Or, is it that you aren't yet... Read More
In this Facebook Live I talk about why INFJs get stuck overthinking and what we can do about it. Good news! Your brain is beautiful just the way it is. In this video, I share three reasons WHY you overthink, including the technical reason that has to do with... Read More
This is a continued discussion from my previous post. In this Facebook Live I shared three questions to ask yourself if you think you might be in the wrong career. I followed that up with three actions you can take right now, even if you can't... Read More
When I was a 7th grader, I joined the yearbook staff at my school. A big part of this job was being a photographer for the school's clubs and various groups. Since I'm of a...ahem...certain age...the camera I had available to me was a manual film camera. You know, like the kind where you load actual film into the camera, properly set the exposure, then develop the film? This is where I fell in love with photography. I began subscribing to photography magazines. I saved my babysitting money and bought a Pentax K-1000 camera through a layaway program. Ha. I then decided I must become a photographer. I was obsessed. That's the way we INFJs tend to do things. We're either... Read More
I recently had the opportunity to be interviewed by Bo Miller over at I Speak People for The INFJ Personality Show podcast. In it, I shared about my journey to self-acceptance and love and how it has impacted my life and opened me to connection with others. I also shared about my career path... Read More
One of the things I loved as a kid was rearranging my bedroom. I can't recall how frequently I rearranged, but every few months I'd get this sudden urge. Read More
I loved the feeling of a fresh start with each new arrangement. As I rearranged, I would also clean and organize things as I put them in their new spot. Afterwards, I'd stand at the door of my room and gaze at my new area. I'd smile and let out a long sigh. Ahhhhh. Now I can focus. Did you ever do this? To this day, I still...
When you see a close friend or loved one hurting, what's your first instinct? As an INFJ, you have a high level of empathy built in. Although that's a beautiful thing, it can also be incredibly draining. This might make you avoid situations that you know will be full of emotion and various levels of energy. This especially applies to situations with... Read More
I'm thinking about writing this post about decisiveness, but I'm not sure. I could choose that topic, but there are lots of other things I think you'd like to read, too. What if how to be more decisive is not what you really need to hear right now? Maybe I'll write about being more decisive, but also talk about... Read More