I once posted a quote about helping from Mr. Rogers on Facebook and Instagram. The gist is that he says the capacity to accept help is connected to the capacity to give help. The posts generated some interesting conversations. There were also differing opinions about the statement. What I want to share today is something INFJs often struggle with when it comes to helping. That's…Read More
In this series, I not only wanted to share the power of this catabolic/anabolic thought framework with you, but I also wanted to remind myself of its power. It provides a way for us to take conscious control of our thoughts and reminds us that we're not…Read More
Did you catch the Facebook Live I did on How to Manage Your Energy as an INFJ? I shared how your cognitive functions impact your energy as well as some practical tips on managing your energy. The energy I referenced in that video is mostly emotional and physical. But there are other types of energy that impact the way you respond to things in your life. Recognizing and understanding these other types of energy has the power to…Read More
An INFJ's dominant cognitive function, Introverted Intuition, is a convergent process. This means your brain juggles the various patterns it observes until it fits them all together into a single insight. When INFJs have an insight about how something is to be done, it may be difficult to…Read More
One of the most requested topics from INFJs is relationships. It makes sense. Research shows that there are fewer INFJs than any other personality type. This might set us up to feel alone and misunderstood. We're not the only MBTI® type to experience these things, but there are great numbers of INFJs who feel these things on a regular basis. The truth is…Read More
This was a Facebook Live in which I covered the impact your cognitive functions might have on your energy and also some practical tips on how to better manage your energy today.Read More
I'll be honest: I've had some resistance to writing this article on the final piece of our INFJ cognitive function stack. As INFJs, we don't relate to this function as much. It's completely normal to experience…Read More
This is Part 4 of a series exploring what "INFJ" says about you. If you haven't already, start with Part 1 - What Does INFJ Say About You?
We continue this week with your tertiary cognitive function of Introverted Thinking (Ti).
What is Introverted Thinking (Ti)?
Just like Fe, Ti is a decision-making function. Introverts that lead with Ti are ISTPs and INTPs. As INFJs, we prefer to make our decisions using…Read More
The University of INFJ continues...
(Start with Part 1 of this series)
We're exploring each cognitive function in the INFJ’s function stack. Take a look at the previous article in this series to review what we mean by “cognitive functions.” You'll also see how to stay connected to your dominant function, Introverted Intuition (Ni). This week we'll explore your auxiliary function of Extraverted Feeling.
What is Extraverted Feeling (Fe)?
Extraverted Feeling provides the perfect balance to your Introverted Intuition. Your Ni takes in information and your Fe allows…Read More
As an INFJ, you lead with the information-gathering (perceiving) function of Introverted Intuition (Ni). For INFJs and INTJs, the two types who lead with Ni, it's always on. So, what is it? Keep reading…Read More
What would your life be like if conflict didn’t exist? You wouldn’t feel that all-too-familiar tension due to misunderstandings. You’d probably feel like a huge weight was lifted off your shoulders. If you’re an INFJ like me, I know that even the word conflict evokes stress for you. You might be in the habit of regularly avoiding conflict to avoid that horrible feeling before, during, and after. In the idealistic world we dream about in our heads, conflict doesn’t exist. As much as we strive for the ideal, we must admit that conflict will always exist. So what does an INFJ who wants to be the best version of themselves, but avoids conflict at all costs, supposed to do? I’m going to lay out exactly how to deal with conflict…Read More
You've already discovered your INFJ personality type. Raise your hand if you've also Googled all things INFJ. There's a lot of noise out there, isn't there? I want to help you make the most out of the knowledge of your INFJ personality type. That's why we're going back…Read More
There are times in life when we come face-to-face with what we really believe. It's in these moments that our true beliefs about ourselves bubble to the surface. Sometimes they might explode in our face. This is a story about…Read More
Conflict! Ignoring it, avoiding it, or otherwise pretending it doesn't exist is not a healthy expression of our personality type. So how can we, as INFJs, deal with conflict? In this Facebook Live, I answered questions that were submitted about dealing with conflict as an INFJ...Read More
As promised, here's part 2 of 5 healthy habits INFJs can incorporate into their lives to make their self-development a priority. Be sure to watch all the way to the end where I share...Read More
I've met other INFJs in real life due to my work, but I've also met INFJs through my involvement in various "causes." What's an INFJ without a cause? A dissatisfied, unfulfilled, and typically sad INFJ. We need to feel like we're...Read More
What healthy habits can INFJs incorporate into their lives? Today I'm sharing five important habits in this first part of a two-part video series. How many of these do you do on a daily basis?Read More
So many INFJ women tell me they feel misunderstood. They want, just once, for someone to get them.
As humans, I believe we're all wired for connection with other humans. There are a whole lot of people walking around feeling misunderstood, not just us INFJs. Being misunderstood is not a unique INFJ quality, but it's often the number one frustration for INFJs. Why does it cut so deeply when we feel misunderstood? Let's take a look...
Watch this video for help normalizing your lack of confidence and to learn six ways to start increasing your confidence right now. I'll also share two principles that will lay the foundation for developing your confidence.Read More