When I committed to creating weekly resources for INFJ women in the form of an email called The INFJ Life, I faced my perfectionism and fear of criticism. I had a vision, though, and committed to seeing it through. With this work, I've made 10 observations about being an INFJ woman...Read More
Conflict! Ignoring it, avoiding it, or otherwise pretending it doesn't exist is not a healthy expression of our personality type. So how can we, as INFJs, deal with conflict? In this Facebook Live, I answered questions that were submitted about dealing with conflict as an INFJ...Read More
As promised, here's part 2 of 5 healthy habits INFJs can incorporate into their lives to make their self-development a priority. Be sure to watch all the way to the end where I share...Read More
I've met other INFJs in real life due to my work, but I've also met INFJs through my involvement in various "causes." What's an INFJ without a cause? A dissatisfied, unfulfilled, and typically sad INFJ. We need to feel like we're...Read More
What healthy habits can INFJs incorporate into their lives? Today I'm sharing five important habits in this first part of a two-part video series. How many of these do you do on a daily basis?Read More
So many INFJ women tell me they feel misunderstood. They want, just once, for someone to get them.
As humans, I believe we're all wired for connection with other humans. There are a whole lot of people walking around feeling misunderstood, not just us INFJs. Being misunderstood is not a unique INFJ quality, but it's often the number one frustration for INFJs. Why does it cut so deeply when we feel misunderstood? Let's take a look...
Watch this video for help normalizing your lack of confidence and to learn six ways to start increasing your confidence right now. I'll also share two principles that will lay the foundation for developing your confidence.Read More
Did you keep up with the 2018 winter Olympics? I'll admit I didn't. I did see the news stories about who won gold, though, and who was supposed to win but didn't. In a session with my coach the other day I had an epiphany about...Read More
The INFJ women I work with in my coaching practice often struggle with how to deal with conflict. In this video, I get real and share three situations, related to my INFJ personality, in which I created conflict for myself due to...Read More
The majority of INFJ women I work with are really hard on themselves. I mean really hard on themselves. This results in a lot of self-blame, guilt, and frustration. What about you?
Why do we do this? I'll get to this in just a minute.
As an INFJ, your "NF" cognitive function pair makes you an idealist. You share this with other NF types like ENFJ, INFP, and ENFP. It's important to note here that idealism is not...
Have you ever done something completely out of character and later wondered, who was that? Last week I mentioned that everyday stress causes an exaggeration of your dominant cognitive function. When your introverted intuition (Ni) is exaggerated you withdraw even further inside. There's a tipping point when things swing to the other side of your cognitive function stack. This tipping point causes your inferior function to step up and say...Read More
Did you know that INFJs experience stress in more areas than all other types? Of nine categories measured, INFJs rank at the top in more areas than any other type. These include work, intimate relationships, and school. I don't want this information to stress you out! Don't worry—there's hope by the end of this blogpost...Read More
You know this thing that brought you and I together? This knowledge that has made such a difference in our lives? I'm talking about our INFJ personality type. Our type is part of a personality system developed by two women with idealistic visions of changing the world—one of which was an INFJ! They had no previous psychological training and faced a lot of opposition. That didn't stop them from creating something that changed your life...Read More
I love a fresh, new notebook. A clean page. I love a just-cleaned apartment with everything in its place. An empty downloads folder and a clean desktop background make me feel like all is right with the world. Well, maybe for a couple seconds anyway. I love a fresh start. A new day, week, month, or year on the calendar always...Read More
What's your take on the holiday season? Love it? Hate it? Depends on the year? The holidays have this way of magnifying all the issues we see and experience in our lives, especially as INFJs. Today I want to share an underutilized recipe for enjoying this time of year. But first, let's call on your idealism to...Read More
I recently did a Facebook Live to discuss the idea of feeling "stuck" as an INFJ. Take a look at let me know what you think in the comments!Read More
In this Facebook Live I talk about why INFJs get stuck overthinking and what we can do about it. Good news! Your brain is beautiful just the way it is. In this video, I share three reasons WHY you overthink, including the technical reason that has to do with...Read More